Ghadeer Abu Jamous the wife of Jehad Abu Jamous with her 2 children, Jehad was shot in the head while attending the 'Great March of Return' in Gaza
Ghadeer Abu Jamous the wife of Jehad Abu Jamous with her 2 children (from right: Estabraq, Zuhair) , Jehad was shot in the head while attending the Great March of Return with his wife and children.
"Jehad used to walk to the Sofa for work. He used to earn 5 shekels a day because there wasn’t any work in the city. He used to collect plastic items, soda cans to sell. We were living an acceptable life.
I have a family, four children who only have God now to take care of them. He was the breadwinner of the family bringing money in. He used to give the children allowance, too.
After his death, there is no money for my children to feed them. I don’t know what to do, our situation is extremely bad. Take a look at our house. There’s only God who can help me feed them.
During the protests, my children got tired because of the gas so I let them go to my parent’s while I stayed. I arrived home and said to myself that I need to go see my children. He got shot while I was out. I saw my sisters speaking in a low voice. I asked: “What’s going on?” They replied: “Nothing.” This kept going until they told me that Jehad was shot. I rushed towards the European Centre and arrived there in ten minutes. I saw the nurses preparing him before he goes into the intensive care unit or surgery. They arranged with the doctors to let me see him. He was unconscious. May he rest in peace.
He had four visually-impaired sisters, his father was blind. He used to support them as well. He was the breadwinner for both families.
When the children were told that their father died, they told me: “No, mom, it isn’t dad, who died. Our father is alive and he will come. These people are joking”.
I turned to the oldest boy and told him that I only have him to support us. You need to be in charge of the family now after your father. He said: “Don’t worry, mom, I will work and provide for you,” That was the oldest boy who is in the fourth grade in school. I told him that his education is the most important now, so he could find a proper job and not keep searching for jobs like his father.
He used to go with his father to the mosque every day at dawn. He doesn’t anymore, he says he is scared.
I also noticed that my children became disconnected and they would start screaming sometimes. They wake up in the middle of the night screaming.
My young daughter keeps saying: “Dad, dad,” as she was used to him carrying her, hugging her and playing with her. She hugs him so he gives her money. This is the only time we spend with him after he finishes work. He would leave the house at 3am and return in the evening.
My children now became weaker in learning and reading, they are disconnected, and they don’t want to eat or drink. The youngest boy would tell his siblings that their father died, there is no reason for them to play or to go out.
We only have God with us, who will provide for us? There is no one. Who would give us anything now except for God?
I ask all the nations to stand by us and find a solution for us. We’ve had enough of this war and the daily shooting. We need a solution. We’re losing our youth, it’s a big loss to us. How many were killed last Friday and this Friday? How many were injured? How many got parts of their body amputated? We should put our hands together and stop this.
After the death of my husband, God willing I want to compensate the loss of my husband to my children. I want my children to feel that their father is still here.
I want to give them what they want and ask for, just like how their father used to do.”
Photo: Ahmed Mashharawi/NRC